You do know that a fast bowler sends down the ball quicker a batsman would be able to play a shot if he were only looking at the trajectory of the ball, right? In fact, batsmen can predict a great deal about a delivery: it is necessary in order to be able to play genuine fast bowling. Changes of pace rely on upsetting a batsman's prediction, and they are not always successful (indeed, the results can be very spectacular when such is the case).
Taken at its most literally, batsmen cannot force the bowler to definitely bowl in one way or another. However, this is meaningless functionally, in an actual situation. Batsmen may be able to play more than one shot to a particular ball, move around or otherwise defy the bowler's intentions. Furthermore, by playing deliveries a certain way, they can force bowlers to change their method to something less preferred by the bowler, or get a bowler removed from the attack. In reality, batsmen have quite a lot of say in what the bowler does. They are not just passive receipients of a bowler's deliveries.
The batsman's choices and actions may be constrained, but there is a difference between a constrainted choice and, "don't get to decide anything about what is being bowled."