I can understand that. I have heard tennis being compared to boxing in that sense, except for y'know, the violence.
Some insightful posts by ***** in this thread. Can't ever imagine myself ever developing an interest in MMA or boxing, but fair enough.
I wasn't a fan either, till I actually took a couple of Muay Thai classes.
Once I started learning how sophisticated the techniques are, started talking to the coaches and other people training about what goes on in a fight, the amount of thought and planning that goes into it, and once you just interact with fighters and see what great people they are...your perceptions change.
The biggest thing with martial arts is you leave your ego at the door. And the biggest thing is that it is so humbling. There is no room for bullshit. No room to blame the pitch or the toss or your teaammates or talk about who gamed the rules to their advantage or anything like that.
MMA is just a fight. Plain and simple. You have some techniques disallowed because they are too effective or actually lethal, and a few rules to make sure no one takes advantage of the cage or uses their opponent's gear or something against them. So it's not completely, 100% a real fight. But it's the closest you will get.
And when you fight, there is no room for excuses. It's do or die. Win or lose. And if you lose, you only have yourself to blame. You were not skillful enough, or not strong enough, or not fit enough, or couldn't stop your opponent's techniques, or weren't smart enough to find the holes in their defence when they found the holes in yours. Ultimately, if you want to get better, you have to set your pride and ego aside, own up to your flaws, and come back to the gym. Day in and day out. Be willing to keep training and learning and getting better. Get your ass kicked in the gym repeatedly by people who have techniques that you cant stop until you can stop them.
And every fight, when it's just you and your opponent in the ring/cage/mats, you got to show them respect. No matter what. Because one moment could end it for you. There is no room for complacency.
And now imagine that this is your whole life, and people who don't get it just sit there and call you thugs and barbaric.